tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post3132656058317466372..comments2024-03-19T06:04:34.243-04:00Comments on Encouraging Deep Roots: StrugglingTerrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15813884721045918546noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-47798043820961399082009-02-01T19:53:00.000-05:002009-02-01T19:53:00.000-05:00Terri,It looks like your blogging friends have giv...Terri,<BR/><BR/>It looks like your blogging friends have given you excellent advice so you really don't need mine.<BR/><BR/>But if you have prayed about something and feel that the Spirit is leading in a certain way, just be decisive, make the decision and follow through.<BR/><BR/>Don't worry what other people say, you can't please all people all the time for no matter what you decide there will be someone who will be unhappy about it.<BR/><BR/>Besides, everyone needs a break once in a while and it wouldn't hurt to have the children sit in church one sunday a month but if someone does complain then ask them to take over children's church so that you can be in church on communion sunday. That probably would be enough to stop the complainers.<BR/><BR/>Love<BR/><BR/>MomDiannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16550009154135553864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-7834539564375267272009-01-31T07:44:00.000-05:002009-01-31T07:44:00.000-05:00Terri, relax. Let God take care of the worries. In...Terri, relax. Let God take care of the worries. <BR/>In our church we have a family service once a month so that the children can come in with the parents, the parents can receive Communion. The congregation are always asked to accept the fact that little children might run around, and it seems to be accepted. They are the parents responsibilty not yours.<BR/>Praying that you will rest calmly about it all.Elizabethdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02405703727112759947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-52185406512414257192009-01-30T23:28:00.000-05:002009-01-30T23:28:00.000-05:00I think you idea is right on the mark. The kiddos...I think you idea is right on the mark. The kiddos do need to learn to sit and 'glean'. But the teachers also need that time as well. <BR/>Our former church had 'family' Sunday the last Sunday of every month and it worked well.<BR/>I've been where you're at as (one) a Pastor's wife, and (two) wondering what people will say or think.<BR/>Something that has really helped me thru this is knowing that when the Lord truly instructs me to do something, my first response is obedience. If that bothers or 'offends' someone else, then that is an issue they need to take up with the Lord. I chose not to carry their 'problem' and/or be intimidated by manipulation or control.<BR/>Definitely freeing!<BR/>God blessBrendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14289590616497815887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-91293937154428114192009-01-30T23:03:00.000-05:002009-01-30T23:03:00.000-05:00Terri, I've struggled with this too. It's in my n...Terri, I've struggled with this too. It's in my nature to be a "pleaser". <BR/><BR/>The year that I was PTA president and parents called me to complain (of course these were never the people who actually helped with anything) was nearly my undoing. I spent many a night crying on my husband's shoulder. The good part about it was that it was a refining fire in a lot of ways. I finally realized in my heart that I can't please everyone and that's OK. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing your struggles with us. Your decision sounds like a good one to me. Blessings!50s Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00517530725609329801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-1749222214701720582009-01-30T18:24:00.000-05:002009-01-30T18:24:00.000-05:00Terri,Yes, I struggle with this and understand. I ...Terri,<BR/>Yes, I struggle with this and understand. I have dealt with it since I was a girl. I so appreciate your transparency and your courage.<BR/>As far as the children misbehaving in the church, if they are sitting by their parents then it is theirs to deal with the behavior issues. I know you know that. This maybe a growing experience for the children and the church.<BR/>You have two to answer to and seek approval our Heavenly Father and your husband.<BR/>Ok, my worrying rearing its head here.(lol) I hope you received that from my heart.<BR/>Hugs,<BR/>Miriam :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-23507402164432777652009-01-30T15:21:00.000-05:002009-01-30T15:21:00.000-05:00Terri, our church does the same thing on Communion...Terri, our church does the same thing on Communion Sunday so I think its a great idea as we get to have the whole church family in there at least one Sunday a month!! As for pleasing people I think we all struggle with that from time to time and your being a pastors wife would definitetly make you want to please everyone, but you never will and all you can do is be true to God and yourself and the others will have to understand and if they don't then maybe you could suggest they volunteer for childrens church!:0) Have a wonderful weekend!~WendyWendy/TheCozyYellowHousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17120609732695197130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-38336153662080831492009-01-30T14:15:00.000-05:002009-01-30T14:15:00.000-05:00Terri, I feel the same way most of the time. I gu...Terri, I feel the same way most of the time. I guess we are "people pleasers". Hang in there and don't worry about the church thing. It sounds like a great idea to me! See, you have my approval, even though I don't count in the case. :o)Debbie Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01610913789958390802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-30086675963988621372009-01-30T09:37:00.000-05:002009-01-30T09:37:00.000-05:00Terri, your honesty is such a blessing to us all. ...Terri, your honesty is such a blessing to us all. I think this is quite a common thing in women...I certainly know exactly where you're coming from! Have you read the book, "Approval Addiction" by Joyce Meyer? It helped me a lot. I'm sure all will go well at church. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6199834575705009097.post-3122435569611569482009-01-30T09:03:00.000-05:002009-01-30T09:03:00.000-05:00Hello Terri - I don't think anyone could ever ...Hello Terri - I don't think anyone could ever think less of you in fact such a poignant & honest post just makes me cherish our blogging friendship even more :)<BR/><BR/>It is the you that God created that makes you such a lovely person and effective pastor's wife.<BR/><BR/>The children in our church come to service once a month and love it and we all love having them. And we get to enjoy fellowship with the group leaders.<BR/><BR/>Any naysayers must remember that we are all God's children regardless of age and none of our behaviours are ever perfect.<BR/><BR/>And I think God wants us all to come together to worship- young & old together.<BR/><BR/>Do not worry about your decision it was made prayerfully & sincerely.<BR/><BR/>"Let you light shine", hold your head high and announce your decision knowing the Lord stands right beside you, cheering you on :)<BR/><BR/>Much love,<BR/>L.x.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07832021443447502646noreply@blogger.com