Thursday, January 29, 2009


I've been working on putting together a devotional on loving our husbands for a ladies luncheon. In trying to find verses related to that, I was struck by an observation. There are a couple of verses that command men on how to be a good husband but there are a multitude of verses that address our role as wives. The Bible seems skewed in our direction. Does that mean that the Bible was written by men in a patriarchal society? I don't think so.

I think that perhaps we have more power as women than we realize. Our obedience to scripture and the way we act towards our husbands is directly related to the way they behave as husbands. For example, so many women complain that their husbands won't lead their families. Yet, they nag and complain and bully them. They are always telling them what to do. If the wife would only be quiet, be respectful, and allow their man the opportunity to lead they might be surprised at his willingness to step up and lead!

That doesn't mean that men don't have responsibility to act the right way but perhaps women have more of tendency to take charge and bulldoze over the top of men! One of the main verses that I can think of as a command to men is "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church." This sums it up nicely. However, have you ever noticed all the verses directed to women about respect, nagging, complaining, and using our mouths to build up rather than tear down? OUCH!!!!

I've been very guilty of this. I constantly need to ask myself, "Am I allowing Dan to lead as the head of this house?" "Do I show him the respect he deserves?" "Do I pay him lip service but my attitude, body language (rolling eyes), and resistance show him differently?" I have so much work to do in this area and it's something I struggle with every day.

However, I truly want to be the kind of wife that the begining of Proverbs 12:4 mentions, "A virtuous and worthy wife [earnest and strong in character] is a crowning joy to her husband, but she who makes him ashamed is as rottenness in his bones." [Amplified Version]

How about you?